The Choices You Make
She chose a black dress for her wedding, a chunk of the audience couldn’t believe their eyes as her father walked her down the aisle and as her husband received her with smiles. It wasn’t the emotional display that fixed the audience’s gaze, it was her choice of dress.
Question: Who wears a black dress at their wedding?
Answer: Whoever chooses to.
There are a lot of stereotypes and conventions that were made by people who most likely are “resting in peace” and others kept doing them until they looked like the norm.
Sometimes, it looks like these instructions and patterns are the sure way to live a life devoid of challenges and trials but well you can raise a finger if you haven’t encountered any challenge in your entire life.
Whatever you’ve chosen to do, whatever makes you happy, whatever gives you a sense of fulfilment, whatever makes you smile when you’re alone on your bed, you should indeed do.
Be brave enough to carve a path for yourself and question conventions that stand in your way of living life the way it makes you happy and full, you should also be willing to take responsibility for all the challenges and obstacles that this path would bring your way. It’s the way you’ve chosen to live your life.
Don’t get pressured to follow certain patterns that have been created and repeated over the years that they now feel normal. Be your own version of normal.
In the words of Chimamanda Adichie, “Not everyone will be happy with you, because it is human nature to try and conserve things as they are, but your spirit will feel full, and there is nothing more meaningful than knowing you have been true to yourself.”
